It has obviously been far too long since I have been on this blog and for that I apologize. I have been living my life as well as I knew and know how. Many thing's in my life have changed since I lost posted on here.
I have lost loved ones and friends . I am now living on my own with a loving supportive boyfriend who spends most days with me . I have achieved great happiness and felt great loss. I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and have been dealing with this invisible illness for over 2 years now.
my twin nieces turned 6 during the beginning of the lockdown caused by the pandemic and every day I have with them is amazing even better is that they live right across the hall from me.
I am now currently trying to get a signed contract with the site known as Dreame they have a reading app . I am hoping to have my first ever written and completed homosexual love story signed for a contract with them in a hope to not only make a little bit of extra money now that I can't really work and to make my childhood dream come true by becoming an author.
http://www.dreame.com/chapter/G69XWUg%2FMF7%2B99dPoJdhHw%3D%3D.html
should link to the story but might not
it is called Home written by EmJahay
Sunday, June 7, 2020
Thursday, August 25, 2016
k-POP Hate
There is so much negativity and hate that seems to come to mind when I think of or read about anything K-pop / Hallyu related.
The hate and negativity comes from all angles and sources I will list where and how I have personally seen these demonstrations of hate and negativity.
Netizens:
People online who do not take time to educate themselves on K=pop hate on it because of many reasons these reasons include them thinking that it all sounds the same, they copy and steal american music. There is nothing original or unique about them. It's all about the looks. They only really know Psy but think they know what KPOP is.
Some people do not like Kpop or the fandoms of Kpop because of the fans of kpop.there are many rude and arrogant people who call themselves fans and hate on non kpop fans for their disinterest in the thing they are obsessed over. Which goes into the second reason there is a bad rep where kpop is involved.
Fandoms and Fans:
Fan wars are all around ugly and nasty be it between two kpop fandoms or a kpop fandom against an american one. There is no need for the hate and yet there is so much of it and that makes some people take a step back like "thanks but no thanks not worth being a fan over all this harassment" The idols and artists aren't like Trump they are not going to be happy and encourage the use of violence towards each other then are shaking their heads at you they are sighing to themselves and they are feeling sorry their fans have such bad behavior , They just can't say it outloud if they want to keep their jobs.
There were 2 articles I recently read about Kpop and why people hate it and why netizens hate international fans I will post from the article of why we are hated .
http://www.koreaboo.com/news/netizens-discuss-hate-international-k-pop-fans/
The one true fan that matters are the Korean ones the rest should just keep their mouths shut and accept everything as it is. Not all fans from Korea but a huge amount of them hate all other fans they accept Chinese and Japanese fans solely for the fact that They believe they spend enough money and promote them enough that although they hate them they can be tolerated. Because many KPOP stars go into the Japanese or Chinese music market they are putting money into their beloved "Oppa's" pocket. They claim that all other fans "international fans" do absolutely nothing to help support the idols we definitely do not buy albums or merchandise and see concerts according to them . And we definitely haven't spread awareness that has put them on a global platform either I suppose.
from the article this is one of the things that was said
"Japanese fans are useful since they attend many concerts and are profitable for K-pop artists. Chinese fans purchase many goods, support, vote relentlessly on various websites and help our artists become bigger. But the rest….?? haha"
So my drawer full of KPOP signed cds that I stayed up all night to watch the meet and greet for that I spent up to 304 buying each time was what? there were people from Canada which is where I live who bought 45 cds and more from MWAVE. there are websites for korean goods from korea that go towards charts and the likes where people buy cds and other merchandise from as well. Sharing things on Youtube that helps spread word about your artists it gets people to notice them and they even get credit when they have so many views on youtube. Do you think all those thousands of views and followers on twitter and instagram even weibo are all just Koreans Chinese and Japanese fans? I have a weibo , I have a Naver account I have a weibo account and I have instagram and twitter in which I follow my favourites on al of those if for just 1 day all international fans were to unfollow all things kpop related from youtube channels to twitter and instagram accounts how many followers would they lose? all those fans that buy tickets to concerts that aren't chinese japanese and korean what if they didn't go how full would the concert hall be? and what of the tours Asian tours, european tours and the American tours even the visits to Toronto those are always full capacity , we are helping them expand their worlds and go places they have always wanted to go. But nope we definitely don't do none of that and there were no fan wars over EMAs over Exo from international fans who were supporting and voting for them either I guess. heck if not for the rest of the world and not just korea and Japan and China who actually voted less for kpop stars and more for their own chinese stars Korea wouldn't have had anyone from kpop in the EMA's international fans helped make that happen chinese fans were why Chris Lee won.
This is what else they had to say
from the above article I will share some of what else was said
"They can’t do math
They keep yelling OTP (One True Pairing)
It means they support the group as an entirety
In Korean we say 10-1 = 0
They always support members who abandoned their group
?????????? (referring to fans continuing to support OT9, OT12 and such)
The basic math is 10 – 1 = 0 and 9 – 1 = 8 right?????
I personally don’t mind if they support it but it is too much."
One True Pair I always thought that was in regards to our ships by Ships I mean the couples we like to see together so I learnt something new if that is what it means , but yes we like to support everyone in what they decide as it's their lives they have the right to decide how they wish to live it. The fans there will demand things like kick them out the group kick them out others were demanding someone commit suicide once like are you shitting me?! and when the member actually did get kicked out and vanished they were mad about that too like you got what you asked for why are you still bitching?
Another part from that article is
"2. Their delusional fantasies are over the top
Many fans love secretly pairing up their favorite idols together
But international fans ESPECIALLY love pairing up male idols and female idols.
Even on YouTube, you can see I’m telling the truth.
It doesn’t just end there but try to ‘manage’ those members on relationships (?)
They LOVE spamming on the comment sections with the same comments and pictures.
They love mentioning artists that have NOTHING to do with the post or video they’re watching. With their actions, the idols who are in good relations with each other might even drift apart ^^"
The hate and negativity comes from all angles and sources I will list where and how I have personally seen these demonstrations of hate and negativity.
Netizens:
People online who do not take time to educate themselves on K=pop hate on it because of many reasons these reasons include them thinking that it all sounds the same, they copy and steal american music. There is nothing original or unique about them. It's all about the looks. They only really know Psy but think they know what KPOP is.
Some people do not like Kpop or the fandoms of Kpop because of the fans of kpop.there are many rude and arrogant people who call themselves fans and hate on non kpop fans for their disinterest in the thing they are obsessed over. Which goes into the second reason there is a bad rep where kpop is involved.
Fandoms and Fans:
Fan wars are all around ugly and nasty be it between two kpop fandoms or a kpop fandom against an american one. There is no need for the hate and yet there is so much of it and that makes some people take a step back like "thanks but no thanks not worth being a fan over all this harassment" The idols and artists aren't like Trump they are not going to be happy and encourage the use of violence towards each other then are shaking their heads at you they are sighing to themselves and they are feeling sorry their fans have such bad behavior , They just can't say it outloud if they want to keep their jobs.
There were 2 articles I recently read about Kpop and why people hate it and why netizens hate international fans I will post from the article of why we are hated .
http://www.koreaboo.com/news/netizens-discuss-hate-international-k-pop-fans/
The one true fan that matters are the Korean ones the rest should just keep their mouths shut and accept everything as it is. Not all fans from Korea but a huge amount of them hate all other fans they accept Chinese and Japanese fans solely for the fact that They believe they spend enough money and promote them enough that although they hate them they can be tolerated. Because many KPOP stars go into the Japanese or Chinese music market they are putting money into their beloved "Oppa's" pocket. They claim that all other fans "international fans" do absolutely nothing to help support the idols we definitely do not buy albums or merchandise and see concerts according to them . And we definitely haven't spread awareness that has put them on a global platform either I suppose.
from the article this is one of the things that was said
"Japanese fans are useful since they attend many concerts and are profitable for K-pop artists. Chinese fans purchase many goods, support, vote relentlessly on various websites and help our artists become bigger. But the rest….?? haha"
So my drawer full of KPOP signed cds that I stayed up all night to watch the meet and greet for that I spent up to 304 buying each time was what? there were people from Canada which is where I live who bought 45 cds and more from MWAVE. there are websites for korean goods from korea that go towards charts and the likes where people buy cds and other merchandise from as well. Sharing things on Youtube that helps spread word about your artists it gets people to notice them and they even get credit when they have so many views on youtube. Do you think all those thousands of views and followers on twitter and instagram even weibo are all just Koreans Chinese and Japanese fans? I have a weibo , I have a Naver account I have a weibo account and I have instagram and twitter in which I follow my favourites on al of those if for just 1 day all international fans were to unfollow all things kpop related from youtube channels to twitter and instagram accounts how many followers would they lose? all those fans that buy tickets to concerts that aren't chinese japanese and korean what if they didn't go how full would the concert hall be? and what of the tours Asian tours, european tours and the American tours even the visits to Toronto those are always full capacity , we are helping them expand their worlds and go places they have always wanted to go. But nope we definitely don't do none of that and there were no fan wars over EMAs over Exo from international fans who were supporting and voting for them either I guess. heck if not for the rest of the world and not just korea and Japan and China who actually voted less for kpop stars and more for their own chinese stars Korea wouldn't have had anyone from kpop in the EMA's international fans helped make that happen chinese fans were why Chris Lee won.
This is what else they had to say
4. They always pretend to know EVERYTHING
In truth, they don’t know ANYTHING haha
When I see their comments, they write on things they have no clue over.
And then insult Korean fans and netizens with no reasons haha
And they act if they’re such generous and understanding beings haha
They always act as if they’re understanding…
Then they don’t understand why Korean fans act the way they do…
It is because Korean fans have their reasons okay? ^^
They always insult Korea and Korean netizens hahahaha
Especially on culturally sensitive topics, they have no clue yet they are so exasperating in their attitude….
Anyways, they always spread rumors and stories over things
They probably heard from people who accidentally misinterpreted or mistranslated from somewhere.
And then when a Korean fan or netizen try to fix their stories, they play dumb.
There is no communicating with these fans.
In truth, they don’t know ANYTHING haha
When I see their comments, they write on things they have no clue over.
And then insult Korean fans and netizens with no reasons haha
And they act if they’re such generous and understanding beings haha
They always act as if they’re understanding…
Then they don’t understand why Korean fans act the way they do…
It is because Korean fans have their reasons okay? ^^
They always insult Korea and Korean netizens hahahaha
Especially on culturally sensitive topics, they have no clue yet they are so exasperating in their attitude….
Anyways, they always spread rumors and stories over things
They probably heard from people who accidentally misinterpreted or mistranslated from somewhere.
And then when a Korean fan or netizen try to fix their stories, they play dumb.
There is no communicating with these fans.
5. They always want to ‘preach’ Korean fans
Every time there is a controversy or an incident, all of their reactions are
‘Oh, Korean fans are being too harsh. Korean netizens????
Every time there is a controversy or an incident, all of their reactions are
‘Oh, Korean fans are being too harsh. Korean netizens????
HAHAHAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAH?????????????
What are they freaking talking about? Hahahahahahahahahahahaha
Yes yes you guys are all geniuses and Korean fans are dumb;
We, too, cannot understand your behaviors ^^
But at least we spend money for our artists.
You guys don’t even spend for them ^^
Downloading music illegally and sharing videos from YouTube haha”
According to shall we say "Local" fans we are ignorant and give nothing of value because we disagree with the way they do things. We support members who have gone their own way and we believe they are humans who have the right to a quality of life like everyone else. We do not think we know everything I think we are just more respecting and humane we accept the fact that life isn't perfect and shit happens. No one person is better than the next Yes yes you guys are all geniuses and Korean fans are dumb;
We, too, cannot understand your behaviors ^^
But at least we spend money for our artists.
You guys don’t even spend for them ^^
Downloading music illegally and sharing videos from YouTube haha”
from the above article I will share some of what else was said
"They can’t do math
They keep yelling OTP (One True Pairing)
It means they support the group as an entirety
In Korean we say 10-1 = 0
They always support members who abandoned their group
?????????? (referring to fans continuing to support OT9, OT12 and such)
The basic math is 10 – 1 = 0 and 9 – 1 = 8 right?????
I personally don’t mind if they support it but it is too much."
One True Pair I always thought that was in regards to our ships by Ships I mean the couples we like to see together so I learnt something new if that is what it means , but yes we like to support everyone in what they decide as it's their lives they have the right to decide how they wish to live it. The fans there will demand things like kick them out the group kick them out others were demanding someone commit suicide once like are you shitting me?! and when the member actually did get kicked out and vanished they were mad about that too like you got what you asked for why are you still bitching?
Another part from that article is
"2. Their delusional fantasies are over the top
Many fans love secretly pairing up their favorite idols together
But international fans ESPECIALLY love pairing up male idols and female idols.
Even on YouTube, you can see I’m telling the truth.
It doesn’t just end there but try to ‘manage’ those members on relationships (?)
They LOVE spamming on the comment sections with the same comments and pictures.
They love mentioning artists that have NOTHING to do with the post or video they’re watching. With their actions, the idols who are in good relations with each other might even drift apart ^^"
First things first when I read this I thought DUH guys and girls should be paired together. Though A LOT of fans do pair guys with guys but they mainly do that in fun and it's not like they aren't encouraged by the "oppas" in the first place with their "fan service" As for trying to manage an idols relationship I'm sorry but that's far more likely to be from the Asian specially Korean ,china japan fans far more than international fans. After all it wasn't US who wanted Sulli gone because of her relationship. I do agree however about posting about others in the comments . However I doubt that the idols drifting apart would have anything to do with international fans we don't hold nearly as much power over them as their own countries fans do.
3. They want EVERYTHING in English
Most of the fans LOVE just looking at what their biases write on their SNS whether or not they understand it. And most of the fans just translate it through a translator or wait for a fan to translate it for them.But….. These international fans… When their biases don’t write in English They complain and ask their oppas and unnis to write it in English.
“Oppa, English please” “Unni, English please”
Why does a Korean artist need to write in English…?
Sure it would be great if they wrote something in English but it shouldn’t be a requirement? I don’t understand when some international fans demand things be written in English as well.."
Once again I do understand this from both aspects They shouldn't have to write in english but if they can write in english it would be nice to see from time to time after all english is a universal language and they are trying to be world renown artists. They want to build better relationships with their fans what better way then that . I do agree we shouldn't demand anything from them but asking them to write in english if they can isn't so bad compared to the controlling nature of demanding them to be cut from a series or demanding they be dropped from a group due to a mistake of youth sometimes.
Back to reasons why North Americans and Americans may dislike kpop this article had 7 reasons and I wanted to expend on what they had written http://www.hellokpop.com/featured/7-reasons-why-people-hate-k-pop-and-how-to-respond-to-them/
so I will copy their reasons and say my piece much like the person of the article had done.
Ga-ga-ooh-la-la!
Want your bad romance
3. They want EVERYTHING in English
Most of the fans LOVE just looking at what their biases write on their SNS whether or not they understand it. And most of the fans just translate it through a translator or wait for a fan to translate it for them.But….. These international fans… When their biases don’t write in English They complain and ask their oppas and unnis to write it in English.
“Oppa, English please” “Unni, English please”
Why does a Korean artist need to write in English…?
Sure it would be great if they wrote something in English but it shouldn’t be a requirement? I don’t understand when some international fans demand things be written in English as well.."
Once again I do understand this from both aspects They shouldn't have to write in english but if they can write in english it would be nice to see from time to time after all english is a universal language and they are trying to be world renown artists. They want to build better relationships with their fans what better way then that . I do agree we shouldn't demand anything from them but asking them to write in english if they can isn't so bad compared to the controlling nature of demanding them to be cut from a series or demanding they be dropped from a group due to a mistake of youth sometimes.
Back to reasons why North Americans and Americans may dislike kpop this article had 7 reasons and I wanted to expend on what they had written http://www.hellokpop.com/featured/7-reasons-why-people-hate-k-pop-and-how-to-respond-to-them/
so I will copy their reasons and say my piece much like the person of the article had done.
#1 THRESHOLD OF ORIGINALITY
Probably the most frequently used reasoning is that K-pop is unoriginal. It supposedly copies American music, heavily relies on samples and “steals” from other artists.
Remember how above I wrote this ...People online who do not take time to educate themselves on Kpop hate on it because of many reasons these reasons include them thinking that it all sounds the same, they copy and steal american music. There is nothing original or unique about them. It's all about the looks. They only really know Psy but think they know what KPOP is.
And so here I shall continue with saying one thing nothing in art comes from an original thought as we all use references from our pools of knowledge. From mythology or from an idea we got when inspired by something else. Sampling is an art that has been done by artists all over the world I mean most music uses the 4 magic chords which are used in just about any and every mainstream popular songs.I will also add part of what she had replied because it's my exact sentiments. And gives examples I am too lazy to get for myself
Do you think American artists (or European, for that matter) don’t employ samples or build upon others’ works? Maybe you don’t realise it, but there are hardly any artists who do not utilize sampling. Hip-hop, the genre itself, is well-know for building on samples, from Eminem’s My Name Is sampling Labi Siffre’s I Got The… to Coolio’s epic Gangsta’s Paradise drawing upon (basically reworking) Pastime Paradise by Stevie Wonder. But huge hits like Vanilla Ice’s Ice Ice Baby, U Can’t Touch This by MC Hammer, Come with Me by Sean Combs (sampling Led Zeppelin), or (sic) by Slipknot all utilise samples. Skrillex is also known for using loops in his songs – and there are many, many more examples.
Also there are many Artists who legally get the rights to use songs like G Dragon to name one of them.
#2 LYRICS
The number two reason people cite for hating K-pop is “mindless” lyrics, repetitive words, the use of random English, and generally “bad quality” lyrics.
Well, I cannot argue that some of the K-pop lyrics are not shallow. Or ridiculous. So, if we look at American lyrics, they are much better in quality – I would assume, since haters prefer American music.
I would like to point out that there are so many artists who use repetitive lines in their songs or have lyrics that make little to no sense to most people who listen to them. Also adding random lyrics in a different language as well .
Lady Gaga: Bad romance adds random french in it in a predominately english song is repetitive and when you actually look at the lyrics part of you can't help but go HUH?
The song starts with the intro then the hook repeats twice
Rah-rah-ah-ah-ah-ah!
Roma-roma-mamaa!Ga-ga-ooh-la-la!
Want your bad romance
this gets said 2 more times in the whole song as for the intro/ bridge which is
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oooh-oh-oh-oh-oooh-oh-oh-oh!
Caught in a bad romance
Caught in a bad romance
gets said 5 times
Then lets see the rest shall we
I want your ugly
I want your disease
I want your everything
As long as it's free
I want your love
(Love-love-love I want your love)
I want your drama
The touch of your hand
I want your leather-studded kiss in the sand
I want your love
Love-love-love
I want your love
(Love-love-love I want your love)
You know that I want you
And you know that I need you
I want it bad, your bad romance
I want your love and
I want your revenge
You and me could write a bad romance
(Oh-oh-oh--oh-oooh!)
I want your love and
All your lovers' revenge
You and me could write a bad romance
I want your disease
I want your everything
As long as it's free
I want your love
(Love-love-love I want your love)
I want your drama
The touch of your hand
I want your leather-studded kiss in the sand
I want your love
Love-love-love
I want your love
(Love-love-love I want your love)
You know that I want you
And you know that I need you
I want it bad, your bad romance
I want your love and
I want your revenge
You and me could write a bad romance
(Oh-oh-oh--oh-oooh!)
I want your love and
All your lovers' revenge
You and me could write a bad romance
Yup nothing repetitive about any of this right?
look over the lyrics to see the rest here http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/l/lady_gaga/bad_romance.html
then as the original article showed Rihanna and Beyonce are also two fans of repetition be it in new stuff or old stuff alike.
Rihanna has songs like Work which honestly is very popular according to some but wtf is she saying in half of the damn song?
then you have diamonds where she repeatedly says shine bright like a diamond
next beyonce
Run the world, Single ladies these two songs have very obvious repetition
the another popular song right now is Work by Fifth Harmony that also has repetition in it.
in the original article they wrote Kanye Mercy for weird lyrics and I'm too lazy to look through my song lists to find any others.
There are so many really good korean songs that use english in just the right places where they make sense . Also there are Artists who make english songs that are pretty damn good depending on the genre you like. I love listening to FTISLAND
as the article had Tablo is also an amazing choice. Or if you want the slow and less auto tuned type of song you can check OST's they have the best songs in my opinion.
#3 ALL THE SONGS SOUND THE SAME
Seriously? I cannot really take this kind of attitude as a serious argument, so I would say, you need an ear check-up, urgently! Or listen to something else than Psy’s Gangnam Style and Gentleman in a row…
Three random songs from this year. Do they sound the same? Or alike? Even a tiny bit?
Sistars I like that
Got7 Playground I do Hooked and Around the world
#4 PLASTIC SURGERY
This is a popular one. I mean, as a reason to hate on K-pop. Here’s the deal: yes, some K-pop artists have gone under the knife, while others have not. Contrary to popular (ignorant) opinion, not everyone has had surgery. Besides, it’s not as if American artists haven’t had such jobs done. The most famous examples are Cher and Michael Jackson, but Mariah Carey, Ashlee Simpson and Britney Spears also have had some done. And of course, this is not even a complete list of Western celebrities who’ve had a little work done here and there.
So what’s the big deal with K-pop plastic surgery? Everywhere in the entertainment industry there is a standard of beauty, whether we like it or not. It’s not like this is a K-pop-exclusive phenomenon.
she pretty much said it all watch the video attached in the original article to understand more. there is not much to add other than what does plastic surgery have to do with music? is it the nose and eyes singing the song?
#5 ALL THE GUYS LOOK GAY/FEMININE
and it's a problem why exactly? Not that all of them look that way, Also why does that equal gay anyways? there are many men out there who are very manly and are gay and many more feminine looking men who aren't. I will add what she had to say as well.
‘Flower boys’, as they are called in Korea, is a social phenomenon, not just a pop industry flick. It involves multiple layers and is more complex than you would ever think. Shortly, young Korean men tend to spend more time on grooming themselves than Western men. Using cosmetic products like BB creams, foundation or eyeliners is not an awkward thing. It’s part of a social expectation of having to look your best. It’s not going to make anyone gay. “Gayness” is not an illness you can catch by using make-up. K-pop is also a visual package, built on imagery, color, texture. It’s a different culture, but different does not mean worse and definitely does not mean ‘gay’.
If you would like to know some background about the development of flower boys in Korea, read this article. We do admit, that this poses an obstacle to the spread of K-pop in the mainstream market, but that is due to the immediate prejudice – people like to hate on things they don’t understand, rather than take the time to educate themselves about it.
To name a few who are not feminine there is Shinwa, tablo , Big Bang's taeyang & seungri, Siwon Choi and Shindong from Super junior, Shorty & mighty mouse.
To name a few who are not feminine there is Shinwa, tablo , Big Bang's taeyang & seungri, Siwon Choi and Shindong from Super junior, Shorty & mighty mouse.
#6 K-POP IDOLS CANNOT SING
Now, this is probably the most ignorant “argument” of all. These people clearly haven’t seen any live K-pop performances, or maybe they stumbled upon some groups of lesser quality. Does that mean that EVERYONE in K-pop is a bad singer? Every genre has better and worse singers. American music does too. Have you heard Ailee belt out her heart? Have you ever seen XIA Junsu perform live? Have you ever listened to and got shivers down your spine from Lee Honggi’s voice? Jaejoong‘s magical tenor? Or 17-year-old Lee Hi‘s blasting vocals? No? Then you know nothing about K-pop singers’ vocal abilities, and I’m sorry.
everything she said was on point but I would also like to add some like IU, Jessica Jung, Suzy Bae, Jun K from 2pm and so many others just watch Song 4 You or IMMORTAL SONGS 2 . This has a bunch of idols singing a song live.
#7 K-POP IS MANUFACTURED
Apparently, this is a problem. Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but do you think your favourite American artists are not “manufactured”? You do know, don’t you, that pop musicians everywhere on the globe have managers, stylists, make-up artists, PR and marketing teams, who work on their images, who tell them what to say and not say to the media, prepare them for concerts and events and take care of their daily needs?
What makes K-pop “different” is that it is all systematic. They have an agency which incorporates all these functions, instead of contracting subcontractors (management company, PR agency, marketing agency, stylist etc). Lady Gaga has a PR agency. She has contracted a company that manages her relationship with her fans. It’s all about branding, and if you think all the branding behind American megastars is done by the artists themselves, then you are fatally mistaken. These people wouldn’t even have time to do everything themselves. The only difference is that all this is done by one agency in Korea, without giving the work to several subcontractors.
Musically speaking, American artists, too, have producers who write and compose songs for them. Some singers do contribute to their own songs. Others merely sing what famous (or less famous) songwriters give them. That’s how it works globally, from Norway to Peru. So, why is it a problem that some K-pop singers aren’t songwriters?
Just like with American artists, some do write their own songs, and recently, there are more and more idols who actively participate in production. G-Dragon has 141 songs to his name and receives almost a million dollars a year in royalties from them. Among others, Block B members, H.O.T’s Kangta, Shinhwa’s Minwoo, Beast’s Junhyung, FTISLAND and CNBLUE members, Tablo, Jay Park, the members of JYJ, have all contributed to their albums.
The ladies don’t have to hide, either. Brown Eyed Girls’ Miryo and Jea, Secret’s Zinger, Wonder Girls’ Yenny, G.NA, Juniel, BoA, and Girls’ Generation’s Yuri have all composed and written songs – and this list is nowhere near complete.
Well they said it all in this one like really this last reason is all ignorance related because they do not even try to educate themselves on how the entertainment business works. Americans are more likely to use ghost writers over Koreans. That is just my opinion mind you , Singer of all about that bass has mentioned it as well that there are many artists that she personally knew claimed to write something that she knew wasn't true at all but she didn't disclose any names. She even admitted that she herself had almost become a ghost writer. I don't think there is much more to say on this reason.
so this is nearing the end of my post reasons why people do not like kpop are mainly in my opinion because they haven't given it the proper chance or found the right fit for their preferences. Or they do not have the patience to deal with ignorant people who do not know how to be polite and allow you to have your own opinion , morales and virtues. There are many people I know who only follow Kpop in a musical way buying cds and watching videos but will not read any articles or anything like that because there is too much drama attached to it. I am that type of kpop fan I will buy cds or singles i enjoy. Watch the dramas they are in , movies or music videos tv appearances. I do not read anything about them news related because I get angry at the things that happen to them , the way they are treated and the lack of respect fans , netizens and society alike have . The thing that ruins most enjoyable things are peoples behaviors and attitudes and that will forever remain true. Some people just have no interest in different languages and cultures so it's just not an interest to them. Some people do not like the shallowness of the fandoms or do not wish to follow the herd like mentality. On one of my other blogs I wrote that KPOP fandoms were like cults and some people really want to stay away from that kind of thing and I don't blame them the world of KPOP can be a scary and dangerous place but please don't hate on people and throw shade at them for liking it.
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Wednesday, August 24, 2016
back again after so long (update)
So I am back once again , Yay me! .
There are definitely too many things that have happened since I have been gone.
I've gotten over a majority of my social anxiety thanks to my beautiful twin nieces whom I love and fawn over pretty hardcore at one point my Instagram was almost only cats and nieces as a theme. Since I am so devoted to my furbabies , I have 3 cats one is a rescue from the streets the other a rescue from possible abandonment . I accepted the fact I will probably be single til I die and embraced my destiny as being a crazy cat lady aunt.
In other news I've spent a long time being sick all thanks to having gotten a bacteria in my stomach since then everything in that regard went down hill , it's been a rather ugly battle. Life is a bit uncomfortable for me with a stomach that just wants to rebel against me but I'm living my life as best I can regardless of the annoyance.
I have been getting fertility treatment next month there will be some minor surgery , my doctor didn't want to wait to do an MRI and said that it would be uicker this way since he can fix anything that's wrong right away depending on what they see with the little camera they will set sail in my lady tube up towards my ovary how pleasant -NOT ! though at least this time I will be under general anaesthetic unlike the previous appointment I had where they apparently cleared my left tube and had me crying there on the table as it felt like I was being stabbed from the inside as this thing he called the wire was passing through the tube . That agony had me in agony for over a week YAY I get to do something similar to it all over again . I definitely want a child and I definitely think the pain will be worth it in the long run if I am able to have a child but Hope doesn't make the process hurt any less sadly.
My grandfather passed away and I find it a bit depressing today since it's the death anniversary , but I celebrated life by celebrating my brothers birthday today as well. I lit a candle in my grandfathers memory and hope that he is resting peacefully with his wife by gods side. My grandfather encouraged me in ways no one else had when I was growing up it was maybe just a small thing but I was glad I got to tell him how much it meant to me before he died. When I was 13 my grandfather asked me "do you still want to be a writer?" to which I replied "yes" and then he gave me my very first electric typewriter! I swear it was the most magical happy moment for me. nothing could have encouraged me to keep writing more than that had. I wish I had been able to write my thoughts down in french and share something with him before his death but I never did however I know he knew I was still writing and still loved poetry and reading .
Recently I think about the encounters I've had in my life and what I would like to share , teach and pass on not only to a child of my own some day but to the children that call me Auntie. I have learned so many important things in life and I think that these lessons I have learned are good ones to share with others. What are some of those lessons?
1. No matter how much it hurts things can always get better , I lived through hell at a rather age and yet as bad as it seemed to be back then I can now smile and say I had some really great times amidst that hell I called my childhood.
2. Some friends are enemies and some enemies are friends but sometimes we just don't see it when I was in grade school I had 2 friends that I was really close with Jennifer and Melissa they were kinda frienemies they would go between being good friends to enemies in a matter of hours sometimes but we always made it work. When high school came along Jen and I we still hung out Melissa on the other hand made some new friends , friends that liked to look down on me and put me down teasing taunting and picking on me. Not that I let any of it really get me down I ignored them for most part and stood my ground talking back to them. The thing was that in one of my year books she wrote in it that I was a great friend and to not listen to what others had to say about me. I was pretty infuriated by that message because if I was such a great friend to her why did she pretty much abandon me and why was she letting her friends do all that to me without once trying to stand up for me to her friends. She told me not to listen to what others said about me even though those people talking about me were her new bestfriends. Then there was this other girl in my art class also named Melissa and we didn't get along at all we would start insulting each other the moment we saw each other. And yet that same girl that I argued with and insulted on a regular basis actually stuck up for me when others were trying to put me down and accuse me of things and start rumours about me. So the enemy in that moment because a friend and the friend had become an allied with my enemies making her an enemy as well. And that is just 1 event in which I had learned that but there are many other such situations that have happened since the 7th grade.
3. You will not keep all your childhood friends til you or they die but you will always have 1 friend that no one can split you apart from who will always be on your side loving both the good and bad parts of you because together those parts of you make you who you are a person they love and wouldn't trade for the world. I met my best friend about 19 years almost 20 years ago and when I first saw her there was this urgent feeling that I must be friends with her. I felt this feeling deep in my soul and felt like someone outside myself was telling me I must be her friend. She had different plans though. She didn't want to be friends with me at all , I figure I must have been an awful lot like a loyal puppy to her and she had just moved from a different province and didn't want to really make any close friends believing she would go back. I ended up stalking her pretty much ... seriously it was just by chance as I was walking home I saw her in her front yard and I attempted to talk to her, I then started to go over to her house imposing myself on her haha. Her mom let me in but since she would ignore me I kept company with her little sister eventually she started to get jealous of her sister like "you came her to see me why are you only spending time with Jessie?!" and then it was hook line and sinker she was finally my friend. We always had a really special friendship one that was always more like a sisterhood we would even wear matching outfits without even knowing what the other would be wearing to school, she would be wearing the top that went with my pants or vice verso. There were so many people who tried to tear us apart because a friendship like ours was a real precious treasure and we treated it like the jewel it was. Even if we would argue we could never stay made we would look at each other and start smiling or laughing it was a situation I never had with anyone else that "why can't I stay mad a you for more than 5 minutes?" type of feeling. So many people have tried to break up our friendship but even though we live a good distance from each other nothing can tear our family apart. There is someone out there who will always be your friend if you treat them the way they should be treated you will never be alone.
There are so many other lessons I have learned but this post has already gotten pretty long ^.^
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There are definitely too many things that have happened since I have been gone.
I've gotten over a majority of my social anxiety thanks to my beautiful twin nieces whom I love and fawn over pretty hardcore at one point my Instagram was almost only cats and nieces as a theme. Since I am so devoted to my furbabies , I have 3 cats one is a rescue from the streets the other a rescue from possible abandonment . I accepted the fact I will probably be single til I die and embraced my destiny as being a crazy cat lady aunt.
In other news I've spent a long time being sick all thanks to having gotten a bacteria in my stomach since then everything in that regard went down hill , it's been a rather ugly battle. Life is a bit uncomfortable for me with a stomach that just wants to rebel against me but I'm living my life as best I can regardless of the annoyance.
I have been getting fertility treatment next month there will be some minor surgery , my doctor didn't want to wait to do an MRI and said that it would be uicker this way since he can fix anything that's wrong right away depending on what they see with the little camera they will set sail in my lady tube up towards my ovary how pleasant -NOT ! though at least this time I will be under general anaesthetic unlike the previous appointment I had where they apparently cleared my left tube and had me crying there on the table as it felt like I was being stabbed from the inside as this thing he called the wire was passing through the tube . That agony had me in agony for over a week YAY I get to do something similar to it all over again . I definitely want a child and I definitely think the pain will be worth it in the long run if I am able to have a child but Hope doesn't make the process hurt any less sadly.
My grandfather passed away and I find it a bit depressing today since it's the death anniversary , but I celebrated life by celebrating my brothers birthday today as well. I lit a candle in my grandfathers memory and hope that he is resting peacefully with his wife by gods side. My grandfather encouraged me in ways no one else had when I was growing up it was maybe just a small thing but I was glad I got to tell him how much it meant to me before he died. When I was 13 my grandfather asked me "do you still want to be a writer?" to which I replied "yes" and then he gave me my very first electric typewriter! I swear it was the most magical happy moment for me. nothing could have encouraged me to keep writing more than that had. I wish I had been able to write my thoughts down in french and share something with him before his death but I never did however I know he knew I was still writing and still loved poetry and reading .
Recently I think about the encounters I've had in my life and what I would like to share , teach and pass on not only to a child of my own some day but to the children that call me Auntie. I have learned so many important things in life and I think that these lessons I have learned are good ones to share with others. What are some of those lessons?
1. No matter how much it hurts things can always get better , I lived through hell at a rather age and yet as bad as it seemed to be back then I can now smile and say I had some really great times amidst that hell I called my childhood.
2. Some friends are enemies and some enemies are friends but sometimes we just don't see it when I was in grade school I had 2 friends that I was really close with Jennifer and Melissa they were kinda frienemies they would go between being good friends to enemies in a matter of hours sometimes but we always made it work. When high school came along Jen and I we still hung out Melissa on the other hand made some new friends , friends that liked to look down on me and put me down teasing taunting and picking on me. Not that I let any of it really get me down I ignored them for most part and stood my ground talking back to them. The thing was that in one of my year books she wrote in it that I was a great friend and to not listen to what others had to say about me. I was pretty infuriated by that message because if I was such a great friend to her why did she pretty much abandon me and why was she letting her friends do all that to me without once trying to stand up for me to her friends. She told me not to listen to what others said about me even though those people talking about me were her new bestfriends. Then there was this other girl in my art class also named Melissa and we didn't get along at all we would start insulting each other the moment we saw each other. And yet that same girl that I argued with and insulted on a regular basis actually stuck up for me when others were trying to put me down and accuse me of things and start rumours about me. So the enemy in that moment because a friend and the friend had become an allied with my enemies making her an enemy as well. And that is just 1 event in which I had learned that but there are many other such situations that have happened since the 7th grade.
3. You will not keep all your childhood friends til you or they die but you will always have 1 friend that no one can split you apart from who will always be on your side loving both the good and bad parts of you because together those parts of you make you who you are a person they love and wouldn't trade for the world. I met my best friend about 19 years almost 20 years ago and when I first saw her there was this urgent feeling that I must be friends with her. I felt this feeling deep in my soul and felt like someone outside myself was telling me I must be her friend. She had different plans though. She didn't want to be friends with me at all , I figure I must have been an awful lot like a loyal puppy to her and she had just moved from a different province and didn't want to really make any close friends believing she would go back. I ended up stalking her pretty much ... seriously it was just by chance as I was walking home I saw her in her front yard and I attempted to talk to her, I then started to go over to her house imposing myself on her haha. Her mom let me in but since she would ignore me I kept company with her little sister eventually she started to get jealous of her sister like "you came her to see me why are you only spending time with Jessie?!" and then it was hook line and sinker she was finally my friend. We always had a really special friendship one that was always more like a sisterhood we would even wear matching outfits without even knowing what the other would be wearing to school, she would be wearing the top that went with my pants or vice verso. There were so many people who tried to tear us apart because a friendship like ours was a real precious treasure and we treated it like the jewel it was. Even if we would argue we could never stay made we would look at each other and start smiling or laughing it was a situation I never had with anyone else that "why can't I stay mad a you for more than 5 minutes?" type of feeling. So many people have tried to break up our friendship but even though we live a good distance from each other nothing can tear our family apart. There is someone out there who will always be your friend if you treat them the way they should be treated you will never be alone.
There are so many other lessons I have learned but this post has already gotten pretty long ^.^
Monday, December 15, 2014
Been forever!
I have had this blog for a long time and I have been seriously neglecting my blogs ...I suck. So what new and interesting things have I been up to in my absence ? Hmm well I FINALLY finished going to court with my psycho ex boyfriend and Justice did NOT prevail but I am living my life according to me. According to others I still don't have much of a life outside of my home ... that's half true. I have amazing twin nieces that I love dearly and cherish every moment I get to spend with them it's gotten pretty bad since I have become totally obsessed lol I always take their pictures or videos and post them on my Instagram @emjahay check it out if you want. Don't fall in love with them though they are mine and I am not sharing. Back in May or there abouts I was always paranoid going out with them to the grocery store, my reasoning behind that was the hoards of people that would not only stop us and be all over them but a few creepers who would follow us through the and ask us questions about them nonstop "Back off lady you ain't kidnapping these babies! stop getting so personal with us!" ran through my head on repeat I'll be a terrifying mother when that day comes lol. My best friend moved further from me so I don't get to see her as much but the loves still strong between us because life long friends don't make a fuss of how little time they see each other but make the most of every time they do see one another.
I have started making my AMV's again right now I am on a SkipBeat trend and loving it so much ! I got a new pc with windows 8.1 the program is more confusing so I have been browsing for other editing programs as well and hope to make some really great videos in the near future. I am still a huge fan of Manga, anime and KPOP my guilty pleasure atm is GOT7 the young guys make me feel less old lol unless I am gawking at them then I feel like a perverted old maid haha.
There are loads of things going on in the world that I just can't believe and I have trouble believing this is the world I lived in 16 years ago when I was still able to find human decency how is it that we are getting worse and not better? how is it our progress in society lacks so much depth and understanding?
I love the internet and I love electronics to a certain degree same thing with tv but what happened to socializing in normal ways? They destroyed all the parks and made them all centered around toddlers so older kids have less fun while outdoors and opt to stay in since there is nothing to do outside but get into trouble wandering around. Back when I was 13-14 years old we still played in the park every day all summer we would play in the parks go on hikes swim and camp out if not at a camping ground due to money then in a back yard or on our balcony we knew how to be resourceful we were creative we didn't go snowboarding when I was a kid since we were poor but we used cardboard boxes and we had our snow gear we made every minute count. Now Every minute is counted as one more away from the tv or internet one less minute of playing roblox, minecraft or pokemon. Before we didn't have to call before going over to a friends to make sure they were home because "I don't want to waste a trip going there and back" we walked over to our friends and rang the door bell if they were home great if they weren't we would call them later and come back tomorrow. It wasn't hard to know where everyone was on any given day because we all went to the same places to hang out and we all communicated with each other there was no "well didn't you get my text?" we wrote hand written letters and passed them in class without getting caught and having a 500$ electronic confiscated . When I was 13 and 14 there was less drugs going around in the hands of children now it seems like half the kids of that age are all going around getting stoned having sex and drinking. This really isn't the kind of world I thought I'd be living in, when I was in grade school I never had to worry about the dangers of someone bringing a gun or knife to school to kill people, not that it hadn't happened before but it wasn't something I had to fear or knew others had to fear. These days daycare children aren't even safe from psychos never mind grade school or high school students. We live in a depressing time we never imagined would come to be and all I can do is hope that I can help my nieces and nephews make better choices for their lives. I have to go now butt here is my video for the day I just made it today
I have started making my AMV's again right now I am on a SkipBeat trend and loving it so much ! I got a new pc with windows 8.1 the program is more confusing so I have been browsing for other editing programs as well and hope to make some really great videos in the near future. I am still a huge fan of Manga, anime and KPOP my guilty pleasure atm is GOT7 the young guys make me feel less old lol unless I am gawking at them then I feel like a perverted old maid haha.
There are loads of things going on in the world that I just can't believe and I have trouble believing this is the world I lived in 16 years ago when I was still able to find human decency how is it that we are getting worse and not better? how is it our progress in society lacks so much depth and understanding?
I love the internet and I love electronics to a certain degree same thing with tv but what happened to socializing in normal ways? They destroyed all the parks and made them all centered around toddlers so older kids have less fun while outdoors and opt to stay in since there is nothing to do outside but get into trouble wandering around. Back when I was 13-14 years old we still played in the park every day all summer we would play in the parks go on hikes swim and camp out if not at a camping ground due to money then in a back yard or on our balcony we knew how to be resourceful we were creative we didn't go snowboarding when I was a kid since we were poor but we used cardboard boxes and we had our snow gear we made every minute count. Now Every minute is counted as one more away from the tv or internet one less minute of playing roblox, minecraft or pokemon. Before we didn't have to call before going over to a friends to make sure they were home because "I don't want to waste a trip going there and back" we walked over to our friends and rang the door bell if they were home great if they weren't we would call them later and come back tomorrow. It wasn't hard to know where everyone was on any given day because we all went to the same places to hang out and we all communicated with each other there was no "well didn't you get my text?" we wrote hand written letters and passed them in class without getting caught and having a 500$ electronic confiscated . When I was 13 and 14 there was less drugs going around in the hands of children now it seems like half the kids of that age are all going around getting stoned having sex and drinking. This really isn't the kind of world I thought I'd be living in, when I was in grade school I never had to worry about the dangers of someone bringing a gun or knife to school to kill people, not that it hadn't happened before but it wasn't something I had to fear or knew others had to fear. These days daycare children aren't even safe from psychos never mind grade school or high school students. We live in a depressing time we never imagined would come to be and all I can do is hope that I can help my nieces and nephews make better choices for their lives. I have to go now butt here is my video for the day I just made it today
Wednesday, March 26, 2014
gave up
so I've kinda given up on writing blogs. whenever I think of something to write I get distracted.
My sister is going to be having her twin daughters next month , I'm excited I do not feel very envious of her anymore. My bestfriend is preparing to move this summer it will be even harder to see her once she moves but it's for the best so I've come to terms with it. I do still feel lonely though. Testifying in court on the 4th of June I hope to get it all over with so I can start living my life properly.I need to start seeing my doctor again as well . I'm busy paying back a debt so I don't have much money for other things at the moment.
My kpop collection is growing though at the moment I've currently misplaced some cds I still haven't found. I have been joining online greets like an addict because I truly got addicted! I now have A FTIsland cd signed by Seunghyun , AOA signed cd, 100%V signed cd, Block B signed cd, and some other cds still in the mail !
I'm looking forward to 100% and MBLAQs greets!I would have loved to buy the jun.k necklace but people be out of their minds paying 99.99 for it! that better be some real everything for that price! and the fact they are only picking 3 people per 45 ppl crazy shit ! and more crazy is that someone actually bought 9!!!!!
I've managed to finish one boy love original novel that took me over 2 years to write, now I am working on my second one it's called Serenade. I've come pretty far in it already like the first one I based it on 3 volumes of 7 chapters or 7 emails sent this one is much shorter than the last one and not just because I pour more time into Home. I am already on the 3rd volume and it's only been 2 weeks since I started writing I am trying to test my limits and I am trying my best not to get any writers block like I got with Home.
I haven't been on the best of terms with my aunt recently, she started off as a supporter to me in my decision to get pregnant clinically. Now she sings a different tune and was trying to undermine every choice I am trying to make for myself and comparing us and such , And because of some very truthful yet harsh comments I made she has decided I am a man hating lesbian. Which is the farthest thing from the truth I do not sexually identify with being a lesbian , romantically I identify as Pansexual and sexually I call myself straight when asked because honestly explaining what it means to be pansexual is bothersome and people do not understand anyways.
Time for me to get back to League Of Angels now
god bless
MJ
My sister is going to be having her twin daughters next month , I'm excited I do not feel very envious of her anymore. My bestfriend is preparing to move this summer it will be even harder to see her once she moves but it's for the best so I've come to terms with it. I do still feel lonely though. Testifying in court on the 4th of June I hope to get it all over with so I can start living my life properly.I need to start seeing my doctor again as well . I'm busy paying back a debt so I don't have much money for other things at the moment.
My kpop collection is growing though at the moment I've currently misplaced some cds I still haven't found. I have been joining online greets like an addict because I truly got addicted! I now have A FTIsland cd signed by Seunghyun , AOA signed cd, 100%V signed cd, Block B signed cd, and some other cds still in the mail !
I'm looking forward to 100% and MBLAQs greets!I would have loved to buy the jun.k necklace but people be out of their minds paying 99.99 for it! that better be some real everything for that price! and the fact they are only picking 3 people per 45 ppl crazy shit ! and more crazy is that someone actually bought 9!!!!!
I've managed to finish one boy love original novel that took me over 2 years to write, now I am working on my second one it's called Serenade. I've come pretty far in it already like the first one I based it on 3 volumes of 7 chapters or 7 emails sent this one is much shorter than the last one and not just because I pour more time into Home. I am already on the 3rd volume and it's only been 2 weeks since I started writing I am trying to test my limits and I am trying my best not to get any writers block like I got with Home.
I haven't been on the best of terms with my aunt recently, she started off as a supporter to me in my decision to get pregnant clinically. Now she sings a different tune and was trying to undermine every choice I am trying to make for myself and comparing us and such , And because of some very truthful yet harsh comments I made she has decided I am a man hating lesbian. Which is the farthest thing from the truth I do not sexually identify with being a lesbian , romantically I identify as Pansexual and sexually I call myself straight when asked because honestly explaining what it means to be pansexual is bothersome and people do not understand anyways.
Time for me to get back to League Of Angels now
god bless
MJ
Wednesday, February 12, 2014
We Don't Ask To Be Us
This post is about racism because recently I have not only been reading more and more about it, but I've felt more and more like a victim to it too.
For those of you who do not know me I am considered a "white person" although in reality my skin is tanned and I am merely a human woman. White, black, yellow, red those aren't colors of people but things instead.
In the past lets say 6 months alone I have read different articles all about something that is racist or someone that is racist or how thinking a certain way makes us racist. One article I thought would be interesting since the title had I Love Korean boys in it, I will now show you some of what was shared on there. Since I was last on there it seems to have been partially rewritten as I don't recall reading certain parts before.
There are still the same comments I would like to share too although I don't know where to start so here is part of that article.
"When people make general statements (sometimes unknowingly) such as ”most Koreans are beautiful”. What does that mean? The population of the Korean peninsula alone (not including those in the diaspora) is roughly 74million inhabitants. How many Koreans have you met that you feel experienced enough to state that most Koreans are beautiful? That is a stereotype. There is such a term as positive racism. What happens is that when you meet people that do not fulfill your criteria for “Korean-ness” is that they get called “not real Korean”. There are numerous accounts of this happening with Korean Americans, or second generation Koreans in the West. The same way when a black person that isn’t the image of “ghetto” gets referred to as “not really black” or an “oreo”. It’s offensive.
People are often guilty of homogenizing Asians, again I understand how one may not be aware of what they are doing. Saying things such as “I love Asian boys” is an extremely bold statement to make. Asia is not limited to China, Japan and Korea (which a lot of the time is what people mean). These are East Asian countries. Even in East Asia there are three other countries and two standalone territories (under China). There are, in fact six regions in Asia namely:
You want to marry an Asian person? Doesn’t matter who? That means you are saying that all of these countries with their various histories, cultures, and distinct ethnic features are all the same to you. As long as they are “Asian” you’ll be okay? Granted some people are joking, or being light-hearted. I get that. At the same time there are also people that are not. I’m directing this to the people who really mean what they say. Why not “I want to marry a Korean K-pop idol/celebrity” or “I want to date someone who looks like a Korean K-pop idol/celebrity”? If you want to be shallow, be proud of it , accept it and don’t try to disguise it as “love for THEIR culture”. It really is the same thing as someone saying, “I want to marry a European”. You would get blank stares all around. “But Europe is a continent with many different countries and not all Europeans are the same…” you say? Bingo.
Being proud of having so-called “yellow fever” is a form of racism. You are not only trivializing a disease that is still prevalent (yes it really is, affecting roughly 300,000 and killing 20,000 people each year) but also saying you won’t date other races is…well racist, isn’t it? You don’t know what tomorrow may bring; you haven’t met all men from every race. How can you happily dismiss a person based on their ethnicity before knowing their personality? You would be happy with an abusive partner as long as he/she was a particular race? Whether or not this is what you believe, by making that statement, this is the thought that is implied. It is a form of hypersexualization.
Sometimes I feel like people who post things like “I want a Korean boyfriend/girlfriend” have this assumption that all Korean people are like their bias. K-pop does not equal Korea.
I saw a statement online once that read “I honestly feel bad for the people who can’t differentiate between their bias and the whole of the Korean population”. Your bias isn’t even necessarily showing their true self (not to say that Kpop stars aren’t good people). People sexualize Hyuna then go on to “slut shame” her. She has even said herself that she is not like that. She is doing her job. SNSD’s Sunny has unrivalled aegyo skills, but that doesn’t mean all Korean girls or women go around doing “gwiyomi” all over the place!
So this most of the article that has been rewritten probably based on many of the comments. There are parts of This one that I do agree with. This person who wrote this article they have also done their own type of stereo type by assuming many people will claim someone is not Korean or black enough what does that even mean? I mean my friend Wai and I used to joke with each other alot because he's a BBC and I am white and we act as though we were each others race. We joked about him being a banana and me being an egg "why?" you might ask because I was white on the outside yellow and white inside where as he was "yellow" yet white on the inside. Because he did not fit the complete "Asian " stereotype although he does fit some being smart and wearing glasses and being slightly on the short side. I also find it is more common for a person to be called such things by Their own ethnicity rather than one outside their own . You are more likely to find another person of the same ethnicity shunning them. As a matter of fact there was something I watched on tv about that where people would define themselves as white or black and how some because their skin was a light tone were looked down on by others with darker skin as not being "real" blacks.
I think the reason why some of us say they want to date a Korean isn't because they look like "Oppa" for me that definitely isn't the case. Some of us see the way many of the Korean men we see seem to wear their hearts on their sleeves, how they care about their families and think I want that type of man. That is what attracts me to Asian men they seem to have a genuine love for their families and there is just a completely different dynamic than what I have seen here growing up. Where I live it's very common to see broken homes / families. Respect is not the most important thing in many families here either. The way there is so much respect by the way you address a person to the way they try to stick through everything as one unit is admirable to me. I think that person is also looking down on many people calling them shallow when there are so many people who do admire and love their culture, Asians know what hard work means and in all honesty how is it racist to call someone living in Asia Asian? I live in Canada and I am a proud Canadian .
Some people do not actively date certain ethnicity groups for their own reasons but that does not mean they aren't attracted to them. I wouldn't marry a practicing Jewish person unless I was still able to continue celebrating the things I grew up believing in , I eat meat and I love christmas and must have a christmas tree. It's ridiculous but it's not racist I have many Jewish friends and have had crushes on many as well, I do not avoid having relationships with them but I will not change my beliefs for another person. I do not like how this person believes everyone with an "Asian" fetish is a shallow racist who cares nothing for the person but the fact they are from Asia and are good looking. Of coarse we want to find someone we get along with and that treats us right. Many of us do not understand how a primal instinct and a preference is racist. We cannot help who we fall in love with or find attractive just as much as we can't help who we do not find attractive and can't fall in love with.
I will now share things from the comments some will not be the full posts but parts I agree with.
"It´s definitely true what you say, but I think this kind of
"subconcious racism" can be expressed by anyone i´m sure most people
have met someone who specifies the skin colour, cultural preferences and
even nationalities that they deem fit for themselves in a partner,
people can´t help if they feel unattracted to people of different
ethnicities but perhaps that´s due to representations of other cultures
in the media or lack of interest so perhaps it is unfair to accuse
someone of being racist due to their personal preferences."
next will be between myself and others from before the article was changed
For those of you who do not know me I am considered a "white person" although in reality my skin is tanned and I am merely a human woman. White, black, yellow, red those aren't colors of people but things instead.
In the past lets say 6 months alone I have read different articles all about something that is racist or someone that is racist or how thinking a certain way makes us racist. One article I thought would be interesting since the title had I Love Korean boys in it, I will now show you some of what was shared on there. Since I was last on there it seems to have been partially rewritten as I don't recall reading certain parts before.
There are still the same comments I would like to share too although I don't know where to start so here is part of that article.
"When people make general statements (sometimes unknowingly) such as ”most Koreans are beautiful”. What does that mean? The population of the Korean peninsula alone (not including those in the diaspora) is roughly 74million inhabitants. How many Koreans have you met that you feel experienced enough to state that most Koreans are beautiful? That is a stereotype. There is such a term as positive racism. What happens is that when you meet people that do not fulfill your criteria for “Korean-ness” is that they get called “not real Korean”. There are numerous accounts of this happening with Korean Americans, or second generation Koreans in the West. The same way when a black person that isn’t the image of “ghetto” gets referred to as “not really black” or an “oreo”. It’s offensive.
People are often guilty of homogenizing Asians, again I understand how one may not be aware of what they are doing. Saying things such as “I love Asian boys” is an extremely bold statement to make. Asia is not limited to China, Japan and Korea (which a lot of the time is what people mean). These are East Asian countries. Even in East Asia there are three other countries and two standalone territories (under China). There are, in fact six regions in Asia namely:
You want to marry an Asian person? Doesn’t matter who? That means you are saying that all of these countries with their various histories, cultures, and distinct ethnic features are all the same to you. As long as they are “Asian” you’ll be okay? Granted some people are joking, or being light-hearted. I get that. At the same time there are also people that are not. I’m directing this to the people who really mean what they say. Why not “I want to marry a Korean K-pop idol/celebrity” or “I want to date someone who looks like a Korean K-pop idol/celebrity”? If you want to be shallow, be proud of it , accept it and don’t try to disguise it as “love for THEIR culture”. It really is the same thing as someone saying, “I want to marry a European”. You would get blank stares all around. “But Europe is a continent with many different countries and not all Europeans are the same…” you say? Bingo.
Being proud of having so-called “yellow fever” is a form of racism. You are not only trivializing a disease that is still prevalent (yes it really is, affecting roughly 300,000 and killing 20,000 people each year) but also saying you won’t date other races is…well racist, isn’t it? You don’t know what tomorrow may bring; you haven’t met all men from every race. How can you happily dismiss a person based on their ethnicity before knowing their personality? You would be happy with an abusive partner as long as he/she was a particular race? Whether or not this is what you believe, by making that statement, this is the thought that is implied. It is a form of hypersexualization.
Sometimes I feel like people who post things like “I want a Korean boyfriend/girlfriend” have this assumption that all Korean people are like their bias. K-pop does not equal Korea.
I saw a statement online once that read “I honestly feel bad for the people who can’t differentiate between their bias and the whole of the Korean population”. Your bias isn’t even necessarily showing their true self (not to say that Kpop stars aren’t good people). People sexualize Hyuna then go on to “slut shame” her. She has even said herself that she is not like that. She is doing her job. SNSD’s Sunny has unrivalled aegyo skills, but that doesn’t mean all Korean girls or women go around doing “gwiyomi” all over the place!
“Racism is not in your intent. Your intent is immaterial in how racist your actions are. This isn’t about you BEING a racist. It’s about you DOING A THING that is racist. Your intent doesn’t change it. Your ignorance of its meaning doesn’t change it. It’s got nothing to do with you as a person and everything to do with the meaning of your action in the context of sociocultural history.”
- Moniquilliloquies (via tumblr)"
So this most of the article that has been rewritten probably based on many of the comments. There are parts of This one that I do agree with. This person who wrote this article they have also done their own type of stereo type by assuming many people will claim someone is not Korean or black enough what does that even mean? I mean my friend Wai and I used to joke with each other alot because he's a BBC and I am white and we act as though we were each others race. We joked about him being a banana and me being an egg "why?" you might ask because I was white on the outside yellow and white inside where as he was "yellow" yet white on the inside. Because he did not fit the complete "Asian " stereotype although he does fit some being smart and wearing glasses and being slightly on the short side. I also find it is more common for a person to be called such things by Their own ethnicity rather than one outside their own . You are more likely to find another person of the same ethnicity shunning them. As a matter of fact there was something I watched on tv about that where people would define themselves as white or black and how some because their skin was a light tone were looked down on by others with darker skin as not being "real" blacks.
I think the reason why some of us say they want to date a Korean isn't because they look like "Oppa" for me that definitely isn't the case. Some of us see the way many of the Korean men we see seem to wear their hearts on their sleeves, how they care about their families and think I want that type of man. That is what attracts me to Asian men they seem to have a genuine love for their families and there is just a completely different dynamic than what I have seen here growing up. Where I live it's very common to see broken homes / families. Respect is not the most important thing in many families here either. The way there is so much respect by the way you address a person to the way they try to stick through everything as one unit is admirable to me. I think that person is also looking down on many people calling them shallow when there are so many people who do admire and love their culture, Asians know what hard work means and in all honesty how is it racist to call someone living in Asia Asian? I live in Canada and I am a proud Canadian .
Some people do not actively date certain ethnicity groups for their own reasons but that does not mean they aren't attracted to them. I wouldn't marry a practicing Jewish person unless I was still able to continue celebrating the things I grew up believing in , I eat meat and I love christmas and must have a christmas tree. It's ridiculous but it's not racist I have many Jewish friends and have had crushes on many as well, I do not avoid having relationships with them but I will not change my beliefs for another person. I do not like how this person believes everyone with an "Asian" fetish is a shallow racist who cares nothing for the person but the fact they are from Asia and are good looking. Of coarse we want to find someone we get along with and that treats us right. Many of us do not understand how a primal instinct and a preference is racist. We cannot help who we fall in love with or find attractive just as much as we can't help who we do not find attractive and can't fall in love with.
I will now share things from the comments some will not be the full posts but parts I agree with.
next will be between myself and others from before the article was changed
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