relationship and revenge

I don't understand why people have to involve friends in their relationships.

What I mean by that is when things are going bad between lovers they always have to go and let not only all their friends know but they always have to try and make each other look bad. It doesn't even matter who is right or wrong so long as they make the other look bad.

I will stand by my friends regardless but when it is two friends of a person you are putting them in a hard spot regardless of what a bitch or asshole the person has been.
Alot of people live by the rule of until they do wrong to me I have no reason to not be their friend.
I do not think it is fair to ask people to pick between the couple as some have been friends along time others may decide on their own they do not like how the person behaves and decide to let the person go.
I also do not agree with trying to make the opposites repution rotten people are able to ruin their reps on their own. Many people do not like to hear people talking badly of others, leave the gossip and story telling at the door. I am one of these types I do not like being told bad things about people or listening to others talking badly about others . I deal with it patiently most times but I hate it.

I am the kind of person who sticks around people even when I do not agree with the way they deal with things. I stik around even when they are not 100% there for me let alone 10% there for me. I am this way regardless of pain that might come my way.

I do not believe in giving rise to hate through adding fuel to fires. Revenge solves nothing and more often than not accomplishes little in personal satisfaction.
The vicious cycle of hate is one hard to break , Anger and violence are hard to escape when you let them overwhelm and control you.

I cannot remember a time in my life when there has not be some kind of violence going on around me. even as I write this there are people behind me yelling and screaming fighting and distracting me from my thoughts.
I can say I have learnt first hand the negitive effects of revenge and hate, of holding anger in as well as pain.

Nothing is worth the negitive feelings you feel both with and of yourself and of others, the feelings of hate and anger are better off in the hands of a higher being let that higher being handle it.

There is no need to get wound up and lost in darkness in the void of hatred and anger, the sun shines even in a blizzard if you know where to look.
every cloud has a silver lining from the sun hiding behind it so do not let the obstiles like the clouds block your view of the sun, instead look just around the bend and see the glimmer of the sun waiting to be seen.



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