trust

Can you keep a secret?

How hard it can be sometimes to not tell someone something really important, you sometimes need to share what you know or feel with someone.

How do we know what we share will not be shared with someone else?

Can you trust someone with your secrets but not trust them with your heart?

Girls can be overly sensitive and insecure, so can they trust a man with their secrets but not trust them with their hearts I think so.

You do not mean to doubt them but when your heart is involved you always worry about your heart being broken, you may not worry about them betraying you by telling your secrets but your heart being torn in two is a different story

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I love someone very much and trust this person with my life, I tell him all my serets and gave him my heart fully.

Because I have done that does it mean I trust he will not break my heart?
Of course I am under no illusions I know he will never intentionally break my heart, I love him so much and know there is a possiblity my heart can be broken.

I know my heart is safe in his hands and will not be abused.
Logically I know that emotionally however, having been hurt so many times in the past there are times I doubt myself and him.
I doubt if my love for him can ever be something tangible or if he will always be the bestfriend I was helplessly in love with but never got to have a life with.

That does not mean I will give up on the love I feel for the admirable man I love, I will instead work hard towards doing my part to achieve my dreams.

I know this girl who seemed to be in love with her bestfriend, she trusted him with all her secrets and opened her heart to him fully.
I found out however that she was lying to him about her feelings for him, the girl i thought was in love seemed to not be in love but just held really deep emotions for the guy.

It turned out the guy also was under the impression she was in love with him, that worked great for him who I discovered had secretly been in love with his bestfriend for years.

He confessed his feelings to her believing he stood a chance with her since she appeared to be in love with him.

As per usual I was asked for my opinion on the matter at hand since she wasn't sure if she should get involved with her bestfriend romantically.

What kind of advice do you give someone when you are also in love with your bestfriend?

You cannot really say I don't think thats a good idea I mean he is your bestfriend when you yourself are in love with your bestfriend.

So I told her if she really loved him and thought it could really work and that her friendship with him could with hold a break up then go for it, if you think you will lose your bestfriends by dating them then don't date them.

The girl decided she would try to date her bestfriend.
for the sake of not using guy and girl lets call him Manny and call her Samantha.

Manny was on cloud 9 as he finally got to be with the girl hes held a torch for the past 4 years or so.
Samantha however seemed to decide she really didn't want to have a life with Manny.
Samantha voiced different thoughts and feelings to two of her friends myself and a mutual friend of ours, through talking to our mutual friend I found Samantha was lying to one of us.

Samantha was telling our friend Mia all negitive things and telling me good things and so I was shocked to find out that she was lying to one or both of us.

I was also upset to hear she was talking badly about her bestfriend to Mia.
Manny was broken hearted over being dumped by the girl he has loved for so long, and I have to wonder if she was not going to be serious why did she make promises of forever with him.

I came to the conclusion she did not trust her heart in his hands the way she trusted him with her secrets, and she did not trust me with her secrets the way she trusts me with her heart.